Welcome back guys! This is episode #016 of To Take It Or Leave It, a podcast to help you change the way you look at things, end your mental suffering and give you some motivation and inspiration to live your best life! I’m so glad you’re here! I’m Val Poirier and I’m your host. If you haven’t done so yet, please hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. Today’s topic is: How To Find The Positive In Every Situation.
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In life, there are lots of negative things that happen. That’s life. These happen to everyone. How you choose to look at it though will determine the experience you have. Is it going to be a positive experience or a negative one? The beauty is that you get to choose!
How do YOU view life? Do you view it as life is happening for you or happening to you? Life happening to you is taking on a victim mindset. Instead of worrying and complaining, take action instead to take control of your life.
I want to get something straight first. I’m not saying you should ignore negative situations. Not at all. Actually quite the opposite. What I’m saying is that it’s possible to reframe a negative situation to find something positive out of it. What can you learn from the situation? What can you improve on so that next time this doesn’t happen or maybe something much worse? What can you take away that will help you grow?
Try really hard to look for the positive in the negative situation – a great question to ask yourself is “What is the universe trying to teach me?”
I have some good examples of this from my life. After my divorce, even though it was the worst thing that has happened in my life, I found a way to find the positive in it. I did a lot of reflecting about what went right and what went wrong. Even though I realized I couldn’t change what happened, I also realized the areas where I could grow – communication being the biggest one. I decided that learning what a healthy relationship looked like would benefit me immensely in a future relationship, which was something I knew I wanted. I figured the more I knew about healthy relationships, the better the chance that it would be successful the next time it happened. It gave me a chance to start over and pay attention to what I was doing this time.
During that same time, I was quite unhappy as a person so I took that under my control as well. I started focusing and appreciating all the good things in my life, doing things that I really enjoyed and spending time with people who I felt good around. Lots of focus and a mindset shift can do wonders for you!
Maybe you lost your job. What are some ways that you could find the positive in that experience? Maybe it wasn’t the right fit for you and something better shows up. Or maybe there are some things you could have done differently to have shown up better as an employee. If you’re honest with yourself, would you say you were showing up fully?
Or maybe an employee quits on you. Generally employees don’t leave jobs, they leave bosses. I can think back to some jobs I have left before and some have been due to my boss. Ask yourself what you could do differently next time to make someone want to stay. Were their needs getting met at work as well as yours? What else comes up for you?
Another way to look at the bad things happening in life is to pay attention. The universe will send you signs on where you need to grow next and will make your life miserable if you continue to ignore and resist them. The worst thing you can do is to bury your head in the sand and ignore it. The same situation will come into your life until you grow from it onto the next area where growth is required for you.
When something negative in life happens, it’s important to let yourself feel the pain instead of pointing the finger at something or someone else to blame. Blaming gives your power and opportunity away. This is the victim mindset. Instead take control of your destiny! Approach life with the attitude that no matter what happens, you’re going to win. Once you accept that you can control very little of what happens in your life, it’s easier to accept what does happen and roll with the punches.
Usually when something bad happens, people attach a negative emotion to it, like anger or blame, because that’s what they’re used to doing and then their energy drops. But you can control how you show up to situations with practice. Think about it. You have no control over the situation, so acceptance sems logical. Instead of getting mad and letting that ruin your day or week, try acceptance and finding the good from it. If you look, you will be able to find an area of growth for yourself. Anger won’t change anything but it will steal joy from your life.
In your life, what negative situation are you experiencing and how can you find something positive in it? Change your focus to the positive in these situations and your life will transform!
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