Welcome back guys! This is episode #019 of To Take It Or Leave It, a podcast to help you change the way you look at things, end your mental suffering and give you some motivation and inspiration to live your best life! I’m so glad you’re here! I’m Val Poirier and I’m your host. If you haven’t done so yet, please hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. Today’s topic is: Here’s What The Ideal Life Looks Like.
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Some people think there is a right and wrong way to live and life is this ideal version they’re always looking for. What does it look like? What should I do in my life? How many different things should I have and do in my life?
You start spending your time on things that no one else around you is doing and begin to wonder if you’re crazy. You want someone to tell you if you’re doing the right thing. This could be starting to make your health a priority, spending more time with your family, not spending more than you make, taking care of your mental health……
The ideal life is YOUR ideal life. What are you asking exactly? Are you asking as the woman with seven kids, the bachelor, the man in med school or the newlywed couple? There is no right or wrong answer and each of these people would have a different version of ideal.
For so many years, I wondered if I was doing the right things and living life the right way and never stopping to really think about if where I was spending my time was in the areas that were really important to me. Fast forward to today and I do daily, weekly and monthly check ins with myself, with Matt and with the kiddos. If you’re never checking in with yourself and where you’re spending your time AND money then it’s guaranteed that you WILL get distracted and things that you don’t value will sneak in and can sometimes take over your life. Before you know it, when you look at your life, you have no idea how it became what it is now and how you got here.
As you get older and life changes, your interests will change and your ideal will shift and change on you as well. This is part of the life cycle. There is no ideal life except the one you’ve decided you want to live. It’s that simple. Here are the things that matter:
- Your life should be fluid, meaning it will change as you change. The things that were important to you when you were 20 won’t be the things that are as important to you when you’re 40.
- Your life should be adaptable. There are so many things that are not in our control so it’s important that you can adapt easily when necessary.
- Your life should be flexible, not rigid. There will be things that become important that you may not even know about until they happen and you will want to be able to be flexible with your time to make room for these types of things.
- Your life should be yours. You should be the one that has input into what you want your life to look like and if you’re in a relationship, then there should be a lot of compromise and communication so that both people are living a life they want to be in and not just one person.
You will definitely have some non-negotiables for your life – things you won’t even entertain in your life and that’s normal. We all have them. And when you’re in a relationship, you have to accept the other person’s non-negotiables as well.
Also, if you’re always cancelling a certain activity in your calendar, then it’s time to get serious with yourself and ask yourself if it’s really something that’s important to you. If it is, dig deeper and find out why you keep cancelling on yourself. What do you truly value and care about? You will have some very hard discussions and these are some tough questions to ask yourself.
Some people think that scheduling every minute of your time makes you inflexible. What they don’t understand is that people who do this are very clear about their values and priorities and make sure their life reflects this. They don’t leave room for all the distractions we have in this world and take advantage of their time in this one life. They are quite flexible (maybe not in the immediate 24 hours) because most of what they want to do in already in their calendar. They schedule their downtime and self-care as well because those are important parts of life too. They leave some breathing room between activities so they are not in panic mode either.
It’s important to lead a balanced life. If you’re neglecting one area of your life, it will show through the quality of your life. It’s like having a bumpy tire on a car.
That’s it for today guys! Please share this podcast with someone you know and help share my message. Remember to love yourself first. You know yourself better than anyone else and be confident that you will make the right decisions for how to live YOUR best life.
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